CHAPTER 5: STAYING IN LOVE: PART I - INTIMACY AND SEX
For the excitement and passion of falling in love to continue over time, intimacy and freedom must be an integral part of a relationship. This chapter explores intimacy and sex, and Chapter Six presents intimacy and freedom as a possible dream.
Emotional Intimacy
Emotional intimacy occurs when two people openly share their hearts. This delicious connection is satisfying because whatever they are doing — discussing an issue, having sex or eating dinner — they are simply flowing in the moment. They are giving of themselves without any attachment to getting something in return.
With this idea in mind, think of conversations that were dominated by fun, caring and listening, and those exchanges that were focused on making a point or showing off one’s intellectual expertise. Consider the difference that being heart-connected has made in the quality of your experience. For example, contrast the times when you played a game that was just for fun, with those events when competition and winning were the focus. Now, recall sexual experiences distinguished by sharing and caring and those where partners were self-centered.
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