CHAPTER 1: HAVING A HEART ON
Talking and listening with a heart connection during, as well as apart from, the sexual experience creates a safe place for partners to freely express themselves. Their likes, dislikes, fears, need for freedom and emotional connection, shame and fantasies can be shared in a non-judgmental atmosphere of compassion.
Open-hearted communication is loving, exciting, illuminating and satisfying. Feeling listened to and understood encourages partners to discover new things about each other. A sense of safety blossoms into a fulfilling closeness. The trust that is built allows old wounds to be healed, sexual and emotional intimacy to deepen and new possibilities to emerge.
Sexual issues are probably the most difficult area to talk about openly. Beliefs and fears that get in the way of intimate sexual connections are deeply engrained. When you learn to communicate honestly about sex, talking about everything else in your relationship - even money, politics and religion - will get easier. The first step in heart-connected communication is understanding what having a “heart on” means to a sexual cunning linguist.
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